“Work-life balance is a flawed concept. I don’t know a single successful person who feels like they have mastered the equation. Yet the myth of the perfectly balanced life haunts us.” Lisa Earle McLeod, Huffington Post
1. Work and life aren’t separate: No matter how hard we try, we can’t separate our work and life into their own exclusive compartments. Parents get sick, children have school holidays, cars break down, water pipes explode. As Lisa Earle McLeod says in her article on HuffingtonPost.com “The reality is: If you want a meaningful career and a meaningful personal life, they’re going to bleed into each other. Constantly.” The only way to handle this is to accept that our work and life needs to blend, and it’s up to us to make it happen as smoothly as possible. She then sums things up beautifully, “You don’t get a work life and a home life. You get one life. Don’t waste it trying to achieve balance.”
2. Balance doesn’t mean you have it all: Having it all has become something of a catch phrase, yet do you know anyone who truly feels they have it all? Samantha Ettus, from Forbes.com, goes so far as to say “Not a single one of the current 6 billion people on earth has achieved this goal du jour.” Not a single one. So if this is true, why are we still seeking it? Ettus goes on to say “if we can’t point to anyone who “has it all,” why are we all measuring ourselves on this preposterous yardstick? Let’s leave it behind. And while we are at it, let’s get rid of juggling and leave that to circus professionals.” How about you? Are you ready to get rid of the having it all ideal? At the very least, I believe we should reassess what we mean by having it all, because I think the true meaning as become very distorted.
3. Find your mojo: “When you’re in your mojo, your life has a natural, easy flow to it,” says Ariana Ayu on inc.com. “You instinctively know the right timing for your endeavors, and which puzzle pieces go where….If you’re chronically out of your mojo, your work and personal life both suffer.” Feeling in balance has a lot to do with our energy. This could mean ensuring you are fit, healthy and well rested. It may also mean ensuring you’re in a job you love. If you’re lacking passion and dreading getting up each morning, then these could be the warning signs that you need a job or life review. You owe it to yourself to thrive, not simply survive.
If you’re feeling out of balance, perhaps it’s time to take that word out of your vocabulary, and start talking blend and mojo. Stop dreaming of having it all and start focusing on what is important to you and your family. Remember, no one else in the world has discovered the ultimate balanced lifestyle, so you don’t need to keeping working so hard to find it.